Brigid Slipka

…writings on giving & living

Whose Story Is It?

August 25th, 2010 · Philanthropists & Donors

Every time there is mention in the news or in life about a charitable act, the main character tends to be either:

1. The Giver, who can be either a unimaginably generous or arrogantly patronizing.  And probably, people will choose one of the two sides and debate over who’s right.

2. The Recipient, who can be either an idiot reconnaissant or a crook.  And probably, people will choose one of the two sides and debate over who is right.

The problem with framing the main character as one or the other is that, obviously, half of the equation is missing.  A philanthropic story is not about any one person’s image or act or reputation or history or motivation.  A philanthropic story is not about any one person.

A philanthropic story is about connection between the Giver and the Recipient.  It may be about connection so deep that there’s not simply one charitable act but repeated acts of generosity until the line between Giver and Recipient blurs and disappears altogether.  It may be about a false connection, a disengaged Giver who makes things worse for the Recipient.

The movie of The Blind Side is about a Giver, Leigh Anne Tuohy.  Some people have said it’s  arrogantly racist and some people have said it’s amazingly inspiring.  The book of The Blind Side is about the series of Gifts that connected Michael Oher and the Tuohys and the schools and the coaches and the players and the community around them.  And there’s no debate from the peanut gallery here; complexity is the bane of knee-jerk arguing.

It is so so  so much easier to make a story simple by looking at just one person, just the Giver or just the Recipient.  But when we do this, we miss the connection, the impact (or the lack thereof).  We miss the Gift.

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That $100 Really Paid Forward

August 19th, 2010 · My Own Giving

About a year ago, Peter Sagal did something he said he’d never done before and made a solicitation to his followers (of which I am unabashedly a member) to help support a very dear and very ill friend of his, Jo Carson.

You can tell Peter genuinely felt the full range of emotions that one does in this position: he was unsure about whether to ask, but ultimately love for his friend trumped any residual ickiness from taking advantage of his position as an NPR-celebrity (right, as much as such a thing exists).  So he asked.

His request came just at the time that I was grappling with my own pathetic lack of generosity.  It was more because of my hurried desire to change this part of me that I made a gift; Peter’s request just materialized at that time and was one I trusted.  I did no research and applied to logic to my response.  I just followed my gut to the online donation site.  I was one of many.

(An aside: Is every person deserving of the support of hundreds of random strangers, if only they are lucky enough to count minor celebrities as friends?  At first my egalitarian-gut jerked toward yes, although now I am pausing.  Peter makes the case for Jo’s particular brand of extraordinary-ness.  I believe him thoroughly, not least because she is herself a marvelous Giver.  But I also see that bathing any one person in luminosity also casts a shadow into which the most of the rest of humanity falls.  If one person stands out from the crowd, this means not just that she is wonderful but that everyone else is not.)

In retrospect, I credit this moment as when I first dipped my toe into the idea of regular generosity, a teeny spark before the before the full philanthropic jump-start of the 40 days of giving.  I would have not considered this moment in retrospect at all, though, except that I got another email today from Peter and friends of Jo:

The gifts helped.  The first cancer got beat.  But a new cancer came.  More help was needed.

And I kinda wanted to ignore it.

I wanted to passively delete the request.  I wanted to refuse being pulled into a cycle of continuing support.  I get nervous about outlaying gifts for one person’s health, because it reminds me that while the timing’s uncertain, the final outcome is not.  I’ll give again next time, and next time, and next time, until inevitably, one of those investments will have zero ROI.  Inevitably, the gift will fail.  Inevitably, we’ll all die.

The future is death, for all of us.

But.

The future is also something entirely constructed in our minds, an abstract notion that’s useful for making appointments but nowhere near as real as the quarks that make the atoms that make the molecules that make the cells that make the tumors that make the distress currently occupying the thoughts of too many of my friends.

What matters now is not the future.  What matters now is Now.  What matters is friendship and love and art and fat baby cheeks.

Knowing where the journey ends does not give us an excuse to be blind to the wildflowers along this stretch of road right here.

So.

A gift to Jo and a renewed awe for This Moment Now.

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Academic Research of Philanthropy

August 17th, 2010 · Philosophy of Giving

Yesterday on the radio I heard that scientists from Harvard and UC San Diego showed that giving is infectious.  In the game they arranged, if you were the only giver, you lost while everyone else gained a little.  But if everyone gave, everyone gained a lot.  Outcome of the study?  When one person was generous, in the subsequent rounds everyone else became more generous, too.

Great news!

Then later in the day I read the except from Superfreakonomics describing a twist on the classic economic field game, Dictator (h/t Jennifer Gresham).  In the original game, a participant could give part of his cash or nothing at all, with no consequences either way, end of experiment.  And repeatedly, most folks shared at least something.  This was in line with people behaving altruistically.  But when researcher John List also added the choice of stealing to the previous choices of giving or doing nothing, altruistic behavior plummeted.

Oops!

I heart the scientific method as much as the next analytical geek.  But philanthropy is a complex and messy beast.  One  study can show one conclusion, and another experiment can show something entirely opposite. To consider any research about it, we have to keep in mind two things:

1.  Data was derived from a very specific, very artificial scenario. Changing details of that scenario changes the outcome.

(This is the very point of the second study, that the theory of people being altruistic was wrong because it was based not on the “real world” but on a lab experiment.  But then, of course, they presume List’s theories are correct based on… a lab experiment.)

2.  The data is analyzed through the framework of the particular academic.

Spuerfreakonomics’s Levitt is an economist; he views the world through a lens of incentives and only conceptualizes of Stuff as Capital, never Stuff as Gifts (he makes the very case that the example I frequently use for what is hands-down a Gift, a kidney, should be sold as Capital).

You’re not going to find a complete answer for why people give by asking one academic.  If you ask a professor of economics, you will get an answer through the framework of cost/benefit and incentives.  If you ask a professor of evolutionary biology, you’ll get an answer about altruism as a tool for promoting the species.  A neurobiologist will talk about giving through the framework of the brain.  A religion professor will say giving is part of our relationship to the sacred.  An ethics professor will say giving is necessary for a moral society.  And an art professor will just point to a piece of art-making and say: There. That’s all you need to know.

Everyone approaches giving through their particular framework.  Everyone is correct, in their narrow way, but the full picture can’t be represented through one field.

Ok.

That said:

These studies can be useful when they are considered together, the same way that we get the full picture of the elephant from the descriptions of each of the blind men.  (Remembering, of course, that these that data-driven studies occur only in the social and “hard” science fields, not in the fields of the humanities or the arts.  Looking at academic studies will give you only two of the four main approaches toward giving).

So see the special Bonus! compilation post of academic studies that have implications for giving.  If you are aware of more studies, please let me know and I’ll add ‘em.

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Compilation: Experiments involving Philanthropy

August 17th, 2010 · Compilation

This is a compilation (under construction) of academic studies and experiments that have implications for philanthropy.  Pick and choose whichever study you want to support the theory you’ve got and ignore the rest.

(Please don’t actually do that.  Thank you.)
Neurobiology

Jordan Grafman, Jorge Moll, Frank Krueger: “Human Fronto-Mesolimbic Networks Guide Decisions About Charitable Donation.“  The same areas of the brain light up during the act of giving as do during sex. (layman’s analysis)

Economics

John List: “On the Interpretation of Giving in Dictator Games”.  When given the choices of share or do nothing, most people share. Adding the option of stealing to the choices results in less altruism. (layman’s analysis)

James Fowler and Nicholas Christakis, “Pay-It-Forward Experiment and Spread of Altruism”. In a “public-goods” game, if one individual gives, she loses while everyone else gains.  But if everyone gives, everyone gains the most.  One individual’s generous behavior is contagious and will prompt other players to be more generous in subsequent rounds of the game. (layman’s analysis)

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